Why dogs are happier than you: Understanding primary and secondary emotions…

Dogs experience an internal world that is substantially different from the one you and I inhabit. For dogs, the world is comprised of primary experiences, largely undiluted by the cognitions (including worry) and secondary emotions that we humans constantly bathe ourselves in. Let me elaborate. There’s a great Read More …

How not to be miserable: Challenge, mastery, and flow as panacea…

There’s a pervasive theme among my clients. Time and again, they report having pretty OK lives; they have a comfortable home, supportive relationships, a decent job, and plenty of stuff. But they’re unhappy, or preoccupied, or stressed, or overwhelmed by their emotions (usually anxiety and, Read More …

Why striving for happiness is fucking you up…

So Christmas and New Year’s are over again – little orgies of excess that they are. Did they make you happy? In fact, how much of what we think will make us happy ends up being either stressful or disappointing (or both)? Our quest for Read More …